Manipulative Users

A user is a selfish pretender with a need to be the center of the universe. These masters of manipulation premeditate how to woo you. Strategically, they draw you in by pretending to be something they are not for either sex or control. Just like gold-plated jewelry, however, their magnificent fake veneer will tarnish over time into something ugly and unrecognizable. Users consist of players, fast-talking smooth talkers, the victimized user, the passive user, and the cheater. While a casual player is totally focused on the familiar and won’t give you the time of day on the weekend; a player real good at their game, takes it to the next level, and flirts with the idea of a serious relationship. They disguise their true agenda by totally misrepresenting themselves. They’ll date you on the weekend, and go all out their way to seem like the perfect date.

Confessions of a Casual Player
http://datefacechronicles.blogspot.com/2009/03/confessions-of-casual-player.html

Confessions of a Serious Player
http://datefacechronicles.blogspot.com/2009/03/confessions-of-serious-player.html

The Fast-Talking Smooth Talker likes the idea of a serious relationship; however, they just can’t bring themselves to turn in their player card. Although quite charming, the Fast-Talking Smooth Talker is shady with the facts while expecting you to be an open book. They twist, distort, and hide the facts. They sweet-talk you after you find out they did something wrong. Lay on the charm when they are making up for something. Say they’ll do something then don’t do it. Disappears for hours at a time but is vague about their whereabouts. Blames you for not trusting them after they have given you reason not to. Calls you suspicious or paranoid when you don’t believe their excuses. A golddigger or gigolo’s ultimate goal is money.

The Victimized User wants to be in a serious relationship; however, they are overtly needy. They demand sympathy while making you feel guilty. Their feelings and needs are more important than yours. They complain about everything, are never satisfied, and have an excuse for everything. They refuse to participate in decision-making, then criticize you when you make the decision. They play on your sense of duty and use emotional blackmail to get their way.

The Passive User is needy on the down low. They experience drastic change in emotional involvement (ex: caring, considerate, and attentive to insensitive, noncommittal, and emotionally detached). They manipulate you into spoiling them, which makes the relationship lopsided with you doing all the sharing and giving, them consuming and taking. They let you do all the work. Their mind’s drift off when they’re supposed to be listening to you. They’re moody and overly defensive. You find yourself in a parental role in the relationship.

Confessions of a Passive User: http://datefacechronicles.blogspot.com/2009/03/confessions-of-passive-user.html

Confessions of a Cheater
http://datefacechronicles.blogspot.com/2009/03/confessions-of-cheater.html